I’ve Been Loved Bombed! ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

“Love bombing” is a manipulation tactic often used in abusive or narcissistic relationships. It feels like intense love—but it’s more about control than genuine care. Spotting it early can protect you from emotional harm.

What is Love Bombing?

Love bombing is when someone overwhelms you with affection, attention, and praise very early in a relationship to gain your trust and dependence. It can feel magical at first—but it’s often the first stage of manipulation.

Signs You’ve Been Love Bombed

1.  Things Moved Too Fast

• They said “I love you” very early (within days or weeks).

  
  

• Talked about moving in, marriage, or having kids almost immediately.

  
  

• Wanted exclusivity or deep commitment before you really knew them.

  
  

Love should grow with time and consistency—not intensity from the start.

2.  Constant Texts, Calls, and Attention

• You got bombarded with messages, compliments, or gifts.

  
  

• They wanted to talk all day, every day, and got upset if you needed space.

  
  

At first it felt flattering, but it quickly became overwhelming or smothering.

3.  They Made You Feel “Perfect”

• They put you on a pedestal and said things like:

  
  

  • “You’re my soulmate.”

  • “No one has ever made me feel this way.”

  • “We’re meant to be.”

    
    

• You felt “seen” in a way that seemed too good to be true.

  
  

You barely knew each other, but they acted like you were the one they’ve waited for forever.

4.  You Became Dependent

• They tried to isolate you from friends or family (“They don’t understand us”).

  
  

• You started craving their approval or affection to feel okay.

  
  

• When they pulled away, you felt panicked or confused.

  
  

That sudden withdrawal after intense closeness is often part of the manipulation cycle.

5. The Switch Flipped

• After the intense affection phase, they became:

  
  

  • Critical

  • Distant

  • Controlling

  • Cold

    
    

• You found yourself chasing the love and attention they used to give freely.

  
  

  This is the “devaluation” stage after love bombing—classic in narcissistic or abusive cycles.

What It Feels Like…

• Like a dream at first… then like a trap.

  
  

• You question yourself constantly (“Was I imagining the connection?”).

  
  

• You miss the early version of them, even though the person in front of you feels very different now.

What You Can Do…

✅ Trust the discomfort.

If something feels off—even when everything looks “perfect”—pay attention.

✅ Slow things down.

Healthy love can wait. If someone gets upset that you’re not “all in” fast, that’s a red flag.

✅ Set boundaries.

Space, time, and clarity are your tools for breaking out of the love-bombing fog.

✅ Talk to someone.

An outside perspective (friend, therapist) can help you see what you’re too emotionally close to.

Remember:

Love bombing isn’t about love—it’s about control.

Real love is consistent, respectful, and grows naturally. It doesn’t rush, overwhelm, or confuse.

Would you like a checklist to help you spot love bombing in real time?